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Lean on Me

‘Lean on me …. We all need somebody to lean on’ – A lyric! A truth?


What happens if someone leans on you? Can you look after yourself? Or will that leaning push you over, cause you to crumple, to collapse? Will you feel resentment or stress from the pressure of someone leaning? And what if you lean and the support is taken away, or not there? Will you fall? …


Teaching the other day, I noticed, as my pupil talked about the stress she was feeling from her friend leaning on her emotionally, that physically her whole structure de-powered too. Literally, within the thoughts of the emotionally difficult situation, she lost her inner power, her poise, her balance, her solidity, her ‘self’. She described herself as crumpling and withering under the strain of the relationship. She looked in pain.


I have been developing my teaching over the years based on understanding the simplicity, power and application of Alexander’s direction ‘forward and up’. Much of this teaching is done hands-off, and came about from teaching Alexander Technique to children in a school context, where traditional ‘hands-on’ Alexander Technique is not possible.


As we took the ‘forward and up’ lessons into the consideration of the difficult situation, she became clearer and clearer about what was happening psycho-physically, observing the effects of the unbalanced relationship with her friend.  There were several ‘Aha’ moments. I then spontaneously decided to physically lean on her from the side. What happened? Well she started to collapse of course. I asked her to push back, to do what was needed to look after herself and not let herself be leaned on.


Something amazing happened.

As she pushed back and uprighted her own physical structure, mine righted itself too. We both stood side by side perfectly in balance. As the leaner, I literally ‘popped’ into balance as she came into balance.

We swapped roles, to observe how it felt being the leaner and the leaned upon.  We noticed that it takes a real mental and physical decision to decide not to be leaned on, but to look after your own balance instead. And that decision brought with it poise and a feeling of happiness.


It was a wonderful physical metaphor and moment, because it was so clear to us both that it is by learning to look after ourselves we truly look after another. We both felt whole and complete. (I am looking forward to doing more experiments with this, and wanted to write this blog as much for myself as anything so as to not forget.)


So those lyrics, perhaps rewritten would be ‘don’t lean on me if you need a friend’,  let’s help each other stand in our own truth, balance and power instead, even if it takes a bit of sustained conscious psycho-physical ‘effort’, a bit of a push from ground level to think ourselves up!


I came out of that teaching situation thinking for the umpteenth time that the Alexander Technique is wonderful –  so simple and profound, an ongoing journey of self discovery.


(Funny that the song ‘Lean on Me’ was written by a man named Bill Withers!)


If you have never had an Alexander Technique lesson, I would recommend it as number 1 on your 2018 bucket list! Find a teacher in your area.

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Ki – How I Discovered Alexander Technique



Here’s a girl, nick-name Ki

Yup, a verse, all about me

A teenager who slumped and slouched

Growled and groaned, and then BIG OUCH!

My back packed up, could take no more

Age 24, in pain on the floor


It happened quite out of the blue

While turning for paper on the loo

That little twist, the final straw

My slumped tight muscles finally swore


Muscle spasm, extreme pain

The doctor came, but nothing gained

The collar to hold my neck was thick

The pills he gave me made me sick

Puking with a neck in spasm

My brain to body, there was a chasm


One day, a visiting friend, an actor

Showed me what was the matter

‘At drama college we learned Alexander Technique

So simple, profound, amazing, unique’


‘Let me show you how to lie

Your head on books, knees to the sky …

Just rest … let your mind begin to go …

Into your body, let it flow … ‘


‘The pain is your body shouting ‘KI LISTEN!’

There is no need to stay in prison

For that is what your body’s become

You’re stuck in your head, it’s really quite dumb!’


From that moment I could see

That Alexander Technique was for me

‘Let it go!’ I’d found a key

To learn to let my neck be free


Opening my thinking as I go

Not to arrive or be perfect, just to flow

To let my life a journey unravel

As freely forward and up I can travel

Noticing habits that put me wrong

Like a clamped up, held tight tongue


I’ve learnt this technique bit by bit

And am still learning, come to think of it

For there is no destination, perfect or right

It’s a moving journey, travelling light!


That was 30 years ago and I still LOVE Alexander Technique. If you would like o find out more why not check out my download BODY MAGIC here. 2 x 25 minute lessons for semi supine aka constructive rest.


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Alexander Technique Is Like Harry Potter World!

‘Forward and Up Witch’


Today at school one of the children announced –


‘Alexander Technique is fun! You’re like a teacher from Harry Potter world Miss! Alexander Technique is Magic.’


(Funny how an image of the fuzzy haired bespectacled divination teacher Professor Trelawney, played by Emma Thompson, sprung to mind! And then the flash of a thought that I hope they don’t think I am like Snape!)


But saying Alexander Technique is like Harry Potter world – what can I say – I love my job!


Here are a few more quotes  from 12 – 14 year olds yesterday –

‘We are lucky getting this as you learn life lessons like how to ignore annoying people. When you stop reacting you become kind of invisible and that person stops trying to annoy you!’


‘Alexander Technique is like looking from a different perspective. You see things in a different way. It is like walking into a new room that you have not been in before and you go ‘Wow!’.  It is like the world stops and you can ‘fix’ things, the mistakes, and then carry on in the normal fast world feeling better.’


‘School is stressful. Alexander Technique helps me destress by being more aware of myself.’


‘Pressure builds up in a school day. Alexander Technique is like taking the plug out and everything returns to normal.’


‘When you are in the zone you can let your mind be free and new ideas come easily. You forget about things that are worrying you.’


‘Alexander Technique is like a soother for a sore throat – in that it relieves pains and tensions.’


Magic quotes from magic kids!


Parents –  there are a host of wonderful magical Alexander Technique teachers worldwide! Maybe your children will think Alexander Technique is like Harry Potter world too!


For a link to Body Magic media download for semi supine aka constructive rest aka ‘The Zone’ –  click here 











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Full Stop!


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The Art of Change – Stopping is a Good Place  to Start!


If we keep doing the same thing in the same way we will keep getting the same result! FM Alexander


So how do we change when our habits keep us in the same place? Alexander Technique’s position of mechanical advantage ‘semi- supine’ is a good place to start. Just stop, let go and change starts to occur without you having to do anything. Give it a try!  A little bit of everyday magic and in the words of one of my 12 year old high school Alexander Technique pupils ‘It’s a Relaxative!’


So if you want to change, your mood, your thinking, your physical condition. Put a full stop on your activity and lie down in semi-supine for 15 – 20 mins.

Enjoy! It’s Easy!


Body Magic Download available here

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Student review of Walking with Your Horse CD



I have used Kirsten’s CD  Walking With Your Horse for several years now, and, although I have not  listened to it when riding, the approach that it teaches has proved very beneficial to both my riding and my general attitude.  


Whenever I have found myself in a tricky situation, e.g. when riding a slightly skittish horse across a wide and unfamiliar field accompanied by a fairly inexperience young rider, employing the breathing technique, letting myself down into my saddle and keeping my vision wide and trying to achieve loving eyes enabled both riders and horses to proceed to their destination without any mishap   In fact as I engaged my training I felt my horse relax beneath me and a potentially hairy moment passed without my companion being aware that anything could have been amiss.


I also have Kirsten’s CDs of “Breathe” and “Body Magic” with which I unravel myself from time to time.  


AMB (Alexander Technique student)



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Hurry Up Habit!

Hurry Up! Hurry Up! Hurry Up!



Can you feel the pressure in the words?

Are you giving yourself hurry up instructions?

Is it really necessary?

Can you ease on your hurry up self talk today and ease up a little?

What happens when you do?


There’s no rush! What’s the hurry?

Where are you going so fast?

Does your breathing get shallow and short when you’re always in a hurry?

Does it make you feel stressed, anxious, under pressure?


How about stopping for a bit?

Just a little pause to reboot and upgrade!


The daily ease says lie in semi supine for 15 minutes…..

Slow down for a breather!

It might just speed you up…..

Now there’s a thing!


Breathe Media Download – Here to help you!


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